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Relationships such as marriage, dating, parenting, leadership, management, workplace peer relationships and more. Healthy relationships are characterized by emotional intelligence, good repair mechanisms, boundaries, clarity, joy, and some form of love.

March 18, 2015 By Dr. Greg Hamlin

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Follow Me on Twitter

Get to the Point, Please So, it seems that several months have gone by since I've posted here on my blog.  That was not my intention.  But, alas, life happens.  However, I have been fairly busy with Twitter.  I started using my Twitter account in earnest in April 2014.  Six months later I had over … [Read more...]

Filed Under: Healthy Relationships Tagged With: Dr Greg Hamlin, Social Media, Tweets, Twitter, Writing

August 4, 2014 By Dr. Greg Hamlin

How to Speak to a Narcissist

How to Speak to a Narcissist

This video highlights  the two major characteristics of the narcissistic personality type and explains a few tips for how to communicate more effectively with people who show the characteristics of narcissistic personality disorder. http://youtu.be/Q95in8mCPRM … [Read more...]

Filed Under: Healthy Relationships Tagged With: narcissism, narcissist, narcissistic personality disorder, narcissistic personality type

July 14, 2014 By Dr. Greg Hamlin

Your Relationship Lens: How Lens Distortions Get in the Way

Your Relationship Lens:  How Lens Distortions Get in the Way

Blind to Our Own Negativity? If you are a leader, you have had times when the negative mindset of people you lead became a major frustration.  It's not just the negativity that irked you.  It's the fact that you had a stake in their attitudes being synchronized with yours.   Similarly, if you are … [Read more...]

Filed Under: Healthy Relationships Tagged With: Aaron Beck, Cognitive Distortions List, David Burns, Honest Optimism, Learned Optimism, Lens Distortions, Negativity, Positive Psychology

June 27, 2014 By Dr. Greg Hamlin

How to Argue and Chew Gum

In my last post, I wrote about ways to argue constructively.  Here I would like to briefly add some things to track if you can manage to get yourself to be your own observer during an argument. Three Crucial Things to Monitor During an argument there are at least three characteristics of your … [Read more...]

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June 16, 2014 By Dr. Greg Hamlin

How to Argue Constructively

How to Argue Constructively

Two Characteristics of Constructive Arguing A husband and wife are arguing in my office during a communication exercise.  I have them sitting to face each other so it's harder to look away.  I'm sitting on the couch watching and listening.  I know this couple.  They are arguing according to the … [Read more...]

Filed Under: Healthy Relationships Tagged With: arguing, communication, couples, marriage counseling

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