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The 12 Skills of Honest Optimism were developed by Dr. Hamlin and related to Learned Optimism as developed by Martin Seligman. Each of the 12 skills has a corresponding tool (e.g., anger management worksheet). The 12 skills are used in Dr. Hamlin's coaching for reducing stress and anger and increasing satisfaction in work and relationships.

June 12, 2016 By Dr. Greg Hamlin

Reducing Stress Using 12 Skills and Tools

Reducing Stress Using 12 Skills and Tools

12 Skills for Reducing Stress The complete 12 Skills Video Course is now available (for free) in the member's area.  The format is a series of 12  videos that you can watch on your phone or on your computer.  If you prefer a short video introduction go to the home page of this site and scroll down … [Read more...]

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May 19, 2014 By Dr. Greg Hamlin

Images of Skill 12: Savoring

Images of Skill 12:  Savoring

Skill 12 is learning to savor what is good.  I like these stock images because they illustrate the mindfulness of savoring.  It's true, children can annoy us.  But they can also show us how to pay attention to small, wondrous moments.   Eye contact can also be a form of … [Read more...]

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April 21, 2014 By Dr. Greg Hamlin

Crowbar for Emotions?

No Crowbar Means Frustration You've been called to a meeting at work and you know that you have important ideas to share, but you can't shake that feeling of being inadequate.  You are practically bursting with solutions in your mind, but the meeting ends without you having said very much.  This … [Read more...]

Filed Under: 12 Skills Tagged With: 12 Skills of Honest Optimism, CBT, cognitive behavioral therapy, positive affirmations, Skill 2, stream journaling

April 14, 2014 By Dr. Greg Hamlin

Tame Denial and Other Wild Animals

Denial Zaps the Bad Out...Kinda The capacity of the human mind to engage in denial is one of the most comforting and frightening aspects of living as a human being.  We are overloaded with information so we must be in denial about all the "other" things to which we are not paying attention.  The … [Read more...]

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Choose Your Steps Wisely

Making life changes requires effort. It's as if we all have a stack of "effort chips" that we can spend on a problem.

People who say they have "tried everything" to change usually mean that they have spent all their effort chips on the problem.

The key is to spend your effort chips strategically. When you find leverage, the problem gets fixed before your effort chips run out.

The 12 skills are about spending your "effort chips" wisely.

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