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May 19, 2014 By Dr. Greg Hamlin

Images of Skill 12: Savoring

Images of Skill 12:  Savoring

Skill 12 is learning to savor what is good.  I like these stock images because they illustrate the mindfulness of savoring.  It's true, children can annoy us.  But they can also show us how to pay attention to small, wondrous moments.   Eye contact can also be a form of … [Read more...]

Filed Under: 12 Skills Tagged With: savoring, Skill 12

May 5, 2014 By Dr. Greg Hamlin

Grab That Driving Thought!

Grab That Driving Thought!

The purpose of  Skill 3 anger management worksheet is similar to the previous worksheets is this series, but with a twist. In the last worksheet you practiced skill 2, distinguishing thoughts from feelings. If you know how to do this then you will know where to concentrate your efforts. Working with … [Read more...]

Filed Under: Anger Management Worksheets Tagged With: anger management worksheets instructions, driving thought, skill 3

April 21, 2014 By Dr. Greg Hamlin

Crowbar for Emotions?

No Crowbar Means Frustration You've been called to a meeting at work and you know that you have important ideas to share, but you can't shake that feeling of being inadequate.  You are practically bursting with solutions in your mind, but the meeting ends without you having said very much.  This … [Read more...]

Filed Under: 12 Skills Tagged With: 12 Skills of Honest Optimism, CBT, cognitive behavioral therapy, positive affirmations, Skill 2, stream journaling

April 14, 2014 By Dr. Greg Hamlin

Tame Denial and Other Wild Animals

Denial Zaps the Bad Out...Kinda The capacity of the human mind to engage in denial is one of the most comforting and frightening aspects of living as a human being.  We are overloaded with information so we must be in denial about all the "other" things to which we are not paying attention.  The … [Read more...]

Filed Under: 12 Skills Tagged With: Skill 1

January 30, 2013 By Dr. Greg Hamlin

Anger Management Techniques for 10 Types of Spring Loaded Anger

Anger Management Techniques for 10 Types of Spring Loaded Anger

Anger Management Techniques for 10 Types of Spring Loaded Anger from Greg Hamlin on Vimeo. … [Read more...]

Filed Under: Anger Management Techniques Tagged With: anger management techniques, spring loaded anger

January 14, 2013 By Dr. Greg Hamlin

What About New Year’s Resolutions?

What About New Year’s Resolutions?

So, I wonder how many people still set resolutions for the new year.  I stopped doing it myself several years ago.  At the same time, I always catch myself reviewing my habits, goals, and the overall direction of my life when the new year rolls around.  I've learned to be more humble about what I … [Read more...]

Filed Under: Coaching Courses, Thoughts and Tips Tagged With: anger management techniques, new year's resolutions

December 3, 2012 By Dr. Greg Hamlin

Skill 1 Anger Management Techniques and Worksheets: Steam Journaling

Skill 1 Anger Management Techniques and Worksheets: Steam Journaling

A Good Starting Place for Anger Management Worksheets Do you ever catch yourself arguing with someone in your mind for hours or even days?  Your brain does this to reprocess the angry thoughts and feelings of a relationship or situation.  This anger management worksheet focuses on one of the most … [Read more...]

Filed Under: Anger Management Worksheets Tagged With: anger management techniques, anger management worksheets, Skill 1, Steam Journaling

November 12, 2012 By Dr. Greg Hamlin

Anger Management Worksheets for Adults: Naming and Rating the Intensity of Emotion (Skill 4)

Anger Management Worksheets for Adults:  Naming and Rating the Intensity of Emotion (Skill 4)

Skill 4:  Changing the Focus From Thoughts to Feelings We have been looking at the thoughts that drive angry feelings.   Now we turn our focus to the feelings themselves.  Both of these anger management worksheets deal with Skill 4.  Skill 4 is part of the my series of 12 Skills for Honest … [Read more...]

Filed Under: Anger Management Worksheets Tagged With: anger management tools, anger management worksheets, anger management worksheets for adults, Skill 4, types of anger

October 31, 2012 By Dr. Greg Hamlin

Anger Management Worksheet #3: Driving Thought is One of the Secrets to Anger Control

Anger Management Worksheet #3:  Driving Thought is One of the Secrets to Anger Control

Here is the third in the series of anger management worksheets.  The focus is on teasing out the main thought that drives your anger.  It can be downloaded by clicking on this link (Right-Click and Save As...): Anger Management Worksheet #3:  Clearly Identify the Main Angry Thought (Skill … [Read more...]

Filed Under: Anger Management Worksheets Tagged With: anger management worksheet, anger management worksheets, driving thought, skill 3

October 31, 2012 By Dr. Greg Hamlin

Anger Management Worksheets: Introducing Skill 3

Anger Management Worksheets:  Introducing Skill 3

In a few days I will be posting another anger management worksheet for your use.  It will be a free download in the form of a 5 page PDF document.  The first two pages comprise the anger management worksheet.  The last three pages include most of the worksheet descriptions that you will find in this … [Read more...]

Filed Under: Anger Management Worksheets Tagged With: 12 skills for honest optimism, anger managment worksheets, CBT, cognitive behavioral therapy, free download, pdf workshheet, skill 3

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