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August 27, 2018 By Dr. Greg Hamlin

Focus on Therapy Shifts to the Steps and Tools Website

Focus on Therapy Shifts to the Steps and Tools Website

Hi Everyone, I am now using different websites for specific purposes. Steps For Change (This Website) StepsForChange.com (this website) will be associated with my YouTube channel which is also called Steps for Change. You can find my YouTube channel here: … [Read more...]

Filed Under: Emotional Intelligence Tagged With: steps and tools

June 12, 2016 By Dr. Greg Hamlin

Reducing Stress Using 12 Skills and Tools

Reducing Stress Using 12 Skills and Tools

12 Skills for Reducing Stress The complete 12 Skills Video Course is now available (for free) in the member's area.  The format is a series of 12  videos that you can watch on your phone or on your computer.  If you prefer a short video introduction go to the home page of this site and scroll down … [Read more...]

Filed Under: 12 Skills Tagged With: 12 Skills, 12 skills for honest optimism, Negativity, reducing stress

March 18, 2015 By Dr. Greg Hamlin

Follow Me on Twitter

Follow Me on Twitter

Get to the Point, Please So, it seems that several months have gone by since I've posted here on my blog.  That was not my intention.  But, alas, life happens.  However, I have been fairly busy with Twitter.  I started using my Twitter account in earnest in April 2014.  Six months later I had over … [Read more...]

Filed Under: Healthy Relationships Tagged With: Dr Greg Hamlin, Social Media, Tweets, Twitter, Writing

August 11, 2014 By Dr. Greg Hamlin

Robin Williams Teaches Us

Robin Williams Teaches Us

Tragic Irony I cringed when Matt Damon mocked the line spoken to him by Robin Williams in Good Will Hunting. "It's not your fault...?" It was Saturday Night Live and who could blame Mr. Damon for mocking the line, "It's not your fault...?" But the scene in the movie depicted a therapist, … [Read more...]

Filed Under: Anger Management Worksheets Tagged With: depression, genius, manic, mental illness, Robin Williams

August 4, 2014 By Dr. Greg Hamlin

How to Speak to a Narcissist

How to Speak to a Narcissist

This video highlights  the two major characteristics of the narcissistic personality type and explains a few tips for how to communicate more effectively with people who show the characteristics of narcissistic personality disorder. http://youtu.be/Q95in8mCPRM … [Read more...]

Filed Under: Healthy Relationships Tagged With: narcissism, narcissist, narcissistic personality disorder, narcissistic personality type

July 14, 2014 By Dr. Greg Hamlin

Your Relationship Lens: How Lens Distortions Get in the Way

Your Relationship Lens:  How Lens Distortions Get in the Way

Blind to Our Own Negativity? If you are a leader, you have had times when the negative mindset of people you lead became a major frustration.  It's not just the negativity that irked you.  It's the fact that you had a stake in their attitudes being synchronized with yours.   Similarly, if you are … [Read more...]

Filed Under: Healthy Relationships Tagged With: Aaron Beck, Cognitive Distortions List, David Burns, Honest Optimism, Learned Optimism, Lens Distortions, Negativity, Positive Psychology

June 27, 2014 By Dr. Greg Hamlin

How to Argue and Chew Gum

In my last post, I wrote about ways to argue constructively.  Here I would like to briefly add some things to track if you can manage to get yourself to be your own observer during an argument. Three Crucial Things to Monitor During an argument there are at least three characteristics of your … [Read more...]

Filed Under: Healthy Relationships

June 16, 2014 By Dr. Greg Hamlin

How to Argue Constructively

How to Argue Constructively

Two Characteristics of Constructive Arguing A husband and wife are arguing in my office during a communication exercise.  I have them sitting to face each other so it's harder to look away.  I'm sitting on the couch watching and listening.  I know this couple.  They are arguing according to the … [Read more...]

Filed Under: Healthy Relationships Tagged With: arguing, communication, couples, marriage counseling

June 2, 2014 By Dr. Greg Hamlin

How to Stop an Obsession

How to Stop an Obsession

Those Pesky Obsessions Everyone has experienced obsessions. An obsession could involve worrying about that stove burner that you may not have turned off.  It could be worrying about lab results when there is no reason to worry.  Or, it could be thoughts about symmetry and quantity that arouse urges … [Read more...]

Filed Under: Anger Management Worksheets

May 26, 2014 By Dr. Greg Hamlin

The Relationship Glossary — An Introduction for Memorial Day 2014

Today is Memorial Day, 2014 and I find myself in a reflective mood.  I am struck by the way very young men and women have died in wars that were not of their own making.  I really don't think it makes one a Liberal or a Conservative to simply pause and be thankful for the sacrifice of soldiers.  To … [Read more...]

Filed Under: Relationship Glossary Tagged With: healthy relationship, memorial day, relationship glossary

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