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August 3, 2011 By Dr. Greg Hamlin

What Causes Anxiety Attacks in a Marriage?

What causes anxiety attacks in a husband or a wife?  Most of us are conflict avoiders.  For some people, their only experience with discussing a sensitive subject with family involves the s___ hitting the fan.  For others, the fear of making someone else feel bad or the risk being disliked is enough to cause them to avoid conflict at all costs.

One of the common causes of anxiety of attacks is trying to pretend that some enormous issue is not really a problem.  While some wives and husbands have perfected the art of denial, the subconscious mind cannot be fooled.  And so the anxiety builds until it has nowhere to go.

So what causes anxiety attacks in relationships is often the fear of conflict regarding a big issue that is being avoided.  Often these fears cannot be overcome without learning new and better communication skills.

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