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August 8, 2011 By Dr. Greg Hamlin

How to Deal with Depression: Take the Reigns

How to Deal with Depression by Seeing it as Something Separate From You

One of most agonizing aspects of clinical depression is the feeling that such a dark mood has taken over.   Many people begin to feel empowered when they realize that the depression cloud is a thing separate from who they are as a man or woman.  So in looking at how to deal with depression, one of the first steps is to recognize that depression is a thing in itself.  It’s like a disease with which you have a relationship.  On the one hand, you have to accept the reality of the depression.  But this is not a passive acceptance.  You’ve been given an angry, snarling horse and you have to learn how to take the reigns.

How to Deal with Depression by Taking the Reigns

It’s important to see that in deciding how to deal with depression you are not to just hang on.  Yes, sometimes it’s so intense that you have to to take one day–even one hour–at a time.  But the getting rid of it is not a matter of outrunning it.  It’s taking one small step to take control of it, and then another, and another step, until you have a strategy with fits with the nature of your particular type of depression.

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